If you're in your 40s, 50s, or 60s and your marriage feels... off, you're not alone. This is one of the most common times couples hit a wall. The kids are gone (or almost gone), careers are either peaking or winding down, and suddenly, it's just the two of you in the house again. The silence can be loud.

Many couples describe it the same way: "We're like roommates." "I feel lonely even when we're in the same room." "We don't fight much anymore... but there's no spark either."

This is midlife marriage drift, and it's incredibly common.

What I’ve learned from 30 years of marriage—marriage isn’t always candlelight and butterflies. Sometimes, it looks a lot more like dishes in the sink, two ships passing in the night, or silent scrolling side by side in bed.

But here’s the thing: just because the spark has dimmed doesn’t mean it’s gone. It just might need a little tending.

Whether you’ve been married 5 years or 55, it’s totally normal to go through seasons where you feel disconnected, misunderstood, or stuck in autopilot. The good news? It doesn’t have to stay that way.