Your Kids Don’t Need a Perfect Mom
There’s a version of you that once dreamed freely.
Before the schedules. Before the carpools. Before the endless list of things to do and people to care for.
She had ideas, passions, and a fire in her belly that made her feel alive.
And then… life happened.
You poured yourself into your family — because that’s what love does. You became the steady, dependable one who keeps everyone together. But somewhere in the middle of all that giving, your own dreams got pushed to the back seat.
You told yourself, “One day, I’ll come back to it.”
But somehow, one day keeps getting further away.
Here’s the truth most women won’t say out loud:
It’s not that you don’t want more — it’s that you’re afraid of what it might take to claim it.
Afraid of being seen as selfish.
Afraid of disrupting the balance you’ve worked so hard to keep.
Afraid that maybe… it’s too late.
But what if your children don’t need you to be endlessly available?
What if what they really need is to see you lit up by something that’s yours?
When they watch you follow a spark, they learn what it looks like to live from purpose.
When they see you stumble and get back up, they learn resilience.
When they watch you honor your calling, they learn that joy isn’t selfish — it’s sacred.
You were never meant to disappear into motherhood.
You were meant to expand because of it.
Birthing your dream — whether it’s a business, a book, a new path, or a rediscovery of yourself — doesn’t take away from your role as a mother. It deepens it. It shows your children that women don’t have to choose between nurturing others and nurturing their own soul.
Because the truth is, when a woman comes alive, everything around her begins to thrive.
So maybe this season isn’t about finding time for your dream.
Maybe it’s about remembering that your dream is part of why you’re here.
And your kids?
They don’t need you to be perfect.
They just need to see you on fire — fully alive, wildly human, and brave enough to live your truth.
Reflection: Reconnecting with Your Dream
Take a few quiet minutes with a journal, a cup of tea, and your heart wide open. Ask yourself:
What dream or desire has been quietly tugging at me — even when I try to ignore it?
What story have I been telling myself about why it’s not the right time?
If I took just one small step toward this dream, what would it look like this week?
Let your answers come softly. There’s no rush, no pressure — just truth.
Because the moment you start listening again… the fire returns.
