Feeling Lost in Midlife? How to Rediscover Who You Are Beyond Your Roles
There are stages in a woman’s life that can shake her identity to the core. Marriage, birth of her first child, when they leave home, a divorce, a death of a spouse and menopause, just to name a few.
When identity has such a shake up, it can throw us into a spiral of confusion. Who am I now?
Sometimes we live our lives through the roles that we play, mother, wife, caregiver, and that becomes our identity. But when we no longer play those roles, we question our value.
It happened to me. I spent decades home schooling our children. As the last two got into their high school years, I started to feel lost. I questioned my worth as a person without that role.
Who will I be if I am not a homeschool mom?
My role became my identity. I lost touch with myself, who I was as a person beyond the roles I played. I no longer knew what excited me, what I enjoy doing, what and who I really wanted to be. I somehow lost me along the way.
I knew the mother, the wife, the teacher, the caregiver, but I didn’t know me.
If you have lost touch with yourself, grab a cup of tea, a notebook and ask yourself the following questions:
What have you always known about yourself?
When are you in your happiest moments, what are you? How do you feel? What are you present to?
When have you felt most alive, uplifted, inspired, clear, confident, empowered, free and safe?
What moves you to tears?
Looking back at the end of your life, what would you most want your life to have been about?
Who is your hero and why?
Welcome back!
Spend some time getting to know yourself this week. You might be surprised with what you find. You are so much more than the roles you play. You are so valuable, just because you’re you!
With so much love,
Hadassah
